This job of parenting is so tricky. But, every moment of inappropriate behavior is a wonderful window of opportunity to teach! Often, it is the best time to teach a child that being with other people is a privledge. Thus, if their behavior is rude, they temporarily lose that privledge. Let's say a child is being rude by whining. Often, the child whines, alot, the parent talks about how rude whining is, the child continues to whine, the parent then scolds, threatens, screams..
Q: When everything is so upsetting and chaotic in a moment of bad behavior and anger, it seems unrealistic to be able to stay calm and figure out the right words to use and the proper consequences! How do you keep your cool? A: Give yourself time before you talk. Be honest and say, “I am so angry that I can’t talk to you right now.” It is ok to delay a consequence temporarily while you regain composure. It only takes a minute for that intense emotion of anger to dissipate, a