This job of parenting is so tricky. But, every moment of inappropriate behavior is a wonderful window of opportunity to teach! Often, it is the best time to teach a child that being with other people is a privledge. Thus, if their behavior is rude, they temporarily lose that privledge. Let's say a child is being rude by whining. Often, the child whines, alot, the parent talks about how rude whining is, the child continues to whine, the parent then scolds, threatens, screams..
Q: What do I do when my four-year-old son informs me that he is having a cupcake for breakfast? I say to him, “No, you are not having a cupcake for breakfast,” and he says, “Yes, I am having a cupcake for breakfast,” and I say, “No, you are not having a cupcake for breakfast. They are not healthy breakfast food,” and that goes on until he leaves for preschool at 9:00. I finally did give him half a cupcake because he had eaten his regular breakfast while we were arguing. A: HE